Let’s get straight to it, sis.

The phrase "If he wanted to, he would" has been floating around social media like gospel. And while it might sound harsh, it’s one of the realest truths you’ll ever come to accept in your healing and glowing-up era.

Because here's the truth: consistency, effort, communication, and respect don’t require a PhD in psychology or a five-step manual. When someone genuinely wants to be in your life and values your presence, their actions will show it. Period.

Mixed signals are a message. When he’s "too busy," when he "forgets to text back," when he makes excuses for why he can’t be emotionally available—that’s not a mystery to decode. That’s clarity in disguise. And girl, you deserve more than breadcrumbs of effort and emotional confusion.

Stop translating behavior. You’re not a mind reader or a detective. You don’t need to overanalyze his "likes" on social media or reread old texts for signs of affection. Real love is clear. Real effort is obvious. You won’t have to beg, shrink, or chase what’s meant for you.

If he wanted to prioritize you, he would. If he wanted to love you fully, he would. If he wanted to treat you right, he would.

You don’t have to teach someone how to value you.

So instead of questioning what he wants, turn inward and ask yourself: What do I want? What am I accepting out of fear that I’ll be too much, or worse, alone? That’s where the growth begins.

The more you love yourself, the less tolerance you have for inconsistency. The more you know your worth, the less you entertain confusion.

Let this be your sign: don’t settle for half-hearted love or half-present partners. The right person won’t make you guess. And until he shows up fully? Choose yourself. Every time.

Girl Boss Energy Reminder: Clarity is kindness. Confusion is your cue to exit.

You’re not hard to love, sis. He’s just not the one. 💜

— G