For years, society has sold us the same tired fairytale: love is the destination, and singlehood is just the pit stop. But Tracee Ellis Ross is here to remind us—again—that your life doesn’t start when someone else chooses you.

In her latest SELF profile, the actress, entrepreneur, and self-love icon shared how solo travel, intentional rituals, and single living aren’t a placeholder for romance—they’re a declaration of joy on her own terms.

✈️ The Freedom in Flying Solo

Tracee doesn’t wait for a partner to stamp her passport. She curates solo adventures that make her feel alive, nurtured, and inspired. Because soft life isn’t about who’s next to you on the flight—it’s about where you’re headed in life.

“My time alone is intentional. It’s not about waiting. It’s about choosing myself.” – Tracee Ellis Ross

How often do we delay pleasure, exploration, or new experiences until there’s someone to share them with? Tracee challenges us to flip the script: you are worthy of the adventure now.

🌸 Rituals That Feel Like Luxury

From morning skincare to quiet moments of gratitude, Tracee treats her routines like sacred acts of love—not chores.

Luxury isn’t only designer bags or five-star dinners—it’s the decision to show up for yourself daily, fully, and with intention.

When you romanticize your own life, you realize: you don’t need someone else to add value to it.

💜 Singlehood Is Not a Pause Button

Too often, women are made to feel like being single is a waiting game—like we’re incomplete or “still figuring it out” until love arrives. Tracee Ellis Ross dismantles that myth entirely. Singlehood can be the main event—a season of expansion, joy, and deep connection to yourself.

✨ Girl Boss Energy Takeaway:

You are not “pre-love”; you are a whole story now.

You don’t need permission to live luxuriously, freely, and joyfully.

Love is beautiful—but loving yourself is a lifelong romance worth celebrating.

Your self-care rituals. Your solo travels. Your quiet nights of peace. They aren’t placeholders for something better—they are the something better.

So, pour the wine. Book the trip. Buy the flowers. You are the luxury.