Sis, let’s talk. Because if you’ve been scrolling social media feeling like everyone’s passing you by — getting married, buying houses, launching businesses, having babies — while you’re just… here? I need you to hear me loud and clear: You are not behind.

You’re not failing. You’re not late. You’re not missing out. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

We live in a world obsessed with timelines. By 25 you should be this. By 30 you should have that. By 35 you better be settled down, career on lock, family in motion. And if you’re not? Cue the shame. Cue the panic. Cue the comparison.

But let me free you today: Life is not a race. It’s not a checklist. It’s not a competition.

The truth is, we all have different paths, different callings, different paces. And trying to measure your life by someone else’s mile markers? That’s a setup for disappointment.

Let’s get even more real: social media is a highlight reel. Nobody’s posting their doubts, their failures, their lonely nights questioning everything. You’re comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s curated feed. That’s not fair to you.

I received a letter from a listener recently that broke my heart. She wrote:

“I’m 31, single, no kids, watching all my friends move into new chapters and I feel like I missed my moment. Like I’m being left behind. I’m trying to stay hopeful, but I can’t shake this feeling that I’m losing.”

Sis, if you’ve ever felt that way? I want you to know: You’re not behind. You’re becoming. Every detour, every delay, every pause is preparation. Nothing is wasted. Nothing disqualifies you. Nothing discredits you.

You’re not late. You’re on divine timing.

And here’s something else they don’t tell you: when you rush into milestones just to check boxes, you end up living a life that doesn’t even fit you. Settling into a relationship you don’t really want. Stuck in a career you resent. Making moves just to prove something to people who aren’t even paying attention.

Your worth is not tied to your timeline. Your value isn’t determined by a ring, a title, a salary, or a zip code.

Big sister advice? Stop looking sideways. Look inward. Ask yourself: “What do I truly want? Not what they want for me. Not what I think I should have by now. But what sets my soul on fire?”

Because the moment you stop comparing and start honoring your unique journey? That’s when peace finds you. That’s when joy returns. That’s when you move differently — with intention, with clarity, with boldness.

Listen, sis: you are not behind. You’re being built. You’re being refined. You’re being prepared. And when it’s your time? Nothing and no one can block what’s meant for you.

Release the pressure. Let go of the imaginary clock. You’re already winning by choosing your path.

You’re not late. You’re not lost. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

And if nobody told you today? I’m proud of you.

Stay shining, stay growing, stay becoming. Girl Boss Energy.